Derfor deler flere tusinde billeder af deres negle
"Because I no longer knew who I was. #WhyIStayed" - @JayneFromMaine
"It's not one day he hits you, it's everyday he works hard to make you smaller. #WhyIStayed" - @feministabulous
"#whyistayed I promised to give him 5 years after he hit me the first time #Whyileft my daughter tried to kill herself when she was 4" - @Goddess_Rae
Lige nu deler flere tusinde deres historier på Twitter og Instagram. De sociale platforme er blevet talerør for kvinder og mænd, som har oplevet partnervold i hjemmet. Du kan finde gribende historier hele oktober måned, fordi der er i USA er "Domestic Violence Awareness Month" lige nu.
De deler historier om, hvordan de er én ud af 20 mennesker, som hvert minut bliver udsat for vold i hjemmet af deres partner. I 85 procent af tilfældene er det kvinder, som bliver udsat for volden. Derfor er der flest kvinder, som poster deres historier og billeder.
Grunden til, at de fleste posts er amerikanske, skyldes, at USA har en af de værste statistikker for vold i hjemmet begået af en partner. Faktisk er det også den tredje største årsag til hjemløshed i hele landet. På grund af dette har der de seneste år været øget fokus på at nedbringe det tal. Det har man blandt andet gjort ved at opfordre kvinderne til offentligt at tale om deres oplevelser.
Måske er du af samme årsag for nyligt faldet over hashtagget "Whyistayed". Det er et af de mest brugte under kampagnen. Flere organisationer, der arbejder med voldsramte kvinder, skriver, at de oplever, at mange ikke forstår, hvorfor kvinderne ikke bare afslutter forholdet, hvis det er voldligt. Derfor bruges hashtagget til at opbygge en forståelse for kvindernes situation, hvilken frygt de oplever, og hvorfor det kan være så svært at løsrive sig.
Her er nogle af de posts, som i disse dage bliver delt på Twitter under hashtagget "Whyistayed".
He said he would find me and i would never see my daughter again #whyistayed
— Alminnesota (@Alminnesota2) 5. oktober 2016
#whyistayed because it's better to be called stupid, ugly, retarded and worthless and see your kids daily vs. Only see them 6 days a month.
— Richard Puddy (@richardpuddy) 5. oktober 2016
I love him and I wanted to fix him. And he told me he loved me #WhyIStayed #DVAM #survivor
— Stephanie Tataryn (@TatarynS) 5. oktober 2016
" I felt like he loved me and he was the only person who was on my side." #WhyIStayed #Isolation #DVAM https://t.co/0HRIsdqBhX
— SafePlace (@SafePlace_ATX) 2. oktober 2016
"‘I Believed I Could Love The Abuse Out Of Him’" #WhyIStayed #DVAM #LOVE https://t.co/2S8EX1hlaq
— SafePlace (@SafePlace_ATX) 1. oktober 2016
"The way I grew up, you married for life. " #WhyIStayed #Family #DVAM https://t.co/BjePragSNn
— SafePlace (@SafePlace_ATX) 30. september 2016
Safe Horizon er organisation, der hjælper ofre for vold i hjemmet begået af en partner. De har også startet en kampagne i forbindelse med "Domestic Violence Awareness Month, som hedder "Put the nail in it". Den handler om at vise støtte og opbakning til de mange ofre ved at male sin negl på venstre ringefinger med neglelak hele oktober. Man giver dermed sit løfte om, at man vil være med til at bekæmpe partnervold i hjemmet.
Paint your left ring finger purple today to support ending domestic violence...I almost lost my sister like @tamronhall. #putthenailinit#raiseawareness #donate #stopit #beavoice #educate #teach #abuse #noabuseisok #takeavow #survivor #wearesurvivors
I painted just my left ring finger purple to show that i am a domestic violence survivor #domesticvoilenceawareness #PutTheNailInIt #iamasurvivour
3 Women die everyday from #DomesticAbuse 1 in 4 Women will experience Domestic abuse in their lifetime. I am one of those women in those #Statistics I had convinced myself that since I had been abused as a child that maybe it was just how it worked. Or that I attracted those kind of men. During the abuse I told no one. Or covered up the markings by saying it was my MMA days. Although a few people began to see right through me. Never again, will I let a human being put their hands on me. I am so thankful and blessed for the people who helped me get out of that situation! Please do not turn a blind eye to domestic abuse. Males and females are both domestically abused and no one needs to lay their hands on you nor verbally abuse you. There is help! Do not be afraid to speak! #putthenailinit #safehorizon #purplenail #raiseawareness #donate #stopit #beavoice #educate #teach #abuse #noabuseisok #takeavow #survivor #wearesurvivors
I'm a survivor of domestic violence, and I'm ready to #putthenailinit. I say #nomore to being humiliated in front of our friends. I say #nomore to being raped for your pleasure. I #nomore to being told "there's something about you that made me need to do that." I say #nomore to being afraid of how you'll react, of how angry you'll be, of how you make me feel about my career. I say #nomore to thinking you wouldn't rape me if I were skinnier, smarter, or "more like Sheryl Sandberg or Hillary Clinton." I say #nomore, because it's not me, it's you. #DVAM #DVAM2016 #DomesticViolence #rapetrauma #ptsd #ptsdawareness #ptsdrecovery #selflove #selfcare #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #wellness
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Fakta om vold i hjemmet i Danmark
33.000 kvinder og 13.000 mænd udsættes årligt for partnervold (SFI, 2012)
Hvert 6. barn oplever vold i hjemmet (SFI, 2016)
2.000 kvinder og 1.800 børn har årligt ophold på krisecenter (LOKK, 2011)
10.000 piger og 5.500 drenge udsættes for fysisk kærestevold om året (SFI, 2012)
74 % af udøvere, der har været i behandling i Dialog mod Vold, er vokset op i et hjem med vold (DMV, 2016)
40 % af de kvinder, der oplever vold i hjemmet, er ledige eller førtidspensionerede (SFI, 2012)
Partnervold koster samfundet mindst 280 millioner kroner om årligt (SIF, 2010)
Kilde: dialogmodvold.dk